We hear a lot about ensuring that all sorts of things are sustainable. It’s a real buzzword these days. You hear the terms sustainable energy, sustainable business practices, sustainable everything. In the business arena sustainability is a key concern. But you do not tend to hear very much about relationship sustainability. How likely [...]
Most of us are familiar with the DINKS abbreviation, which stands for Dual Income, No Kids. I came across another term the other day – DINS. This stands for Dual Income, No Sex. A friend laughingly joked that being a DINS leads to becoming a DINKS couple! This is, however, no laughing matter. [...]
When you start talking weddings the most frequently asked question is probably something to do with the type of dress the bride is planning to wear. All of your girlfriends ask if you have chosen your dress yet, what style of dress you’re looking for, how you’re going to wear your hair, and so on. [...]
Many people never succeed in this seemingly simple task. Our minds misdirect us. We frequently think we know what we want only to discover that upon achieving or receiving it that we are still not as happy as we would wish to be. At other times we know what we would like but are too [...]
A lot of people complain that the spark has disappeared from their relationship, that they have become just an “old married couple”. But, if you wish to keep that sense of romance and excitement in your relationship it’s up to you to ensure that these feelings stick around. The romance only disappears if [...]
In the movie Bride Wars one sees Kate Hudson playing the part of a fiancée to be preempting a romantic proposal. She discovers the ring and runs to her boyfriend brimming with excitement. Fortunately, he knows her well and still manages to turn the situation into one of romance, albeit not in quite the manner [...]
How long is a piece of string? Compatibility is based upon more than just the nuts and bolts of getting along; it also depends upon your level of desire to spend time together. We frequently hear people say that “opposites attract” and this in many cases is absolutely true. However it is entirely possible [...]
Some people are really good about standing up for themselves and asking for what they want or need in a relationships. Others sit back and wait, relying on their belief that their partner should know what they want or need. Some would say that if you have to ask, you are potentially forcing your [...]
On this one extra day in the year which happens once every four years it has become customary in some cultures that roles may become reversed and the girl may ask the boy for his hand in marriage; and why not?  Relationships in the main are very different these days in the contemporary word [...]
As you get older you realize how quickly time goes by. Years seem to scamper past and suddenly the kids are fully grown, the mortgage has been paid off and you wonder how it all happened. You remember those long summers which you experienced as a child; days which seemed to go on and on [...]
Q: “I’m getting married in a month and want to know why so many marriages end in divorce. What should I look out for? How can I prevent divorce?” ~Sandra, Houston TX A: Understanding why a marriage or relationship might fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship vulnerabilities. These are not meant to [...]
Any couples counselor will tell you that not all marriages or relationships are salvageable-despite my best efforts (and my pro-marriage and pro-commitment attitudes), some of the couples I’ve counseled will still make the painful decision to end their marriage or relationship. A sad fact is that there will always be a percentage of marriages that [...]
Here is my marriage advice to all couples: If you want to strengthen your marriage or relationship: Watch your mouth! Marriage help: It’s all about the words we choose There’s an old Bee Gees song that says, “It’s only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away.” When you and your [...]
Weddings bring out the highest levels of creativity in every bride. Having changes made to your bridal gown and bridesmaid dresses, helping design the perfect invitations and even casting the vision for those gorgeous floral centerpieces can all be taxing on anyone’s imagination. Perhaps this is why so many brides fall back on the old [...]
“I really hate it when we argue…but I’ve also learned so much about my husband from our fights and we have a stronger relationship now.” ~Sandra, married seven years Even the most effective communicators get into spats now and then. And despite your best efforts at marital bliss, you and your partner will disagree and [...]
